About half enjoy such simple nurturing activities at least weekly, although those with a regular partner are much more likely to report such frequency. To put it mildly, financial stress is probably hitting midlifers below the belt."Financial worries tend to seep into all parts of a couple's life together," says Dr.Case in point: After her 20-year marriage ended, Kim, 44, from Louisville, KY, feared that her dating prospects wouldn’t be attractive to her. They met for a date and he turned out to be even better-looking in person, debunking Kim’s fears that the pickings are slim in the post-divorce dating pool.But after scanning an online dating site she realized this was hardly the case. “I couldn’t believe that there were available men out there with his kind of looks—a Don Johnson type,” she says.For 50-plus types unwilling to walk — possibly rewalk — the path that leads to romance, rings and relocation, the prospect of a "friend with benefits" is looking less and less like a millennial indulgence.
Simply message local members and meet singles open to dating and casual fun. It's been going on since the beginning of time and will always be a thing.
In addition to following Kim’s lead and looking for prospects online, consider joining a book club, park clean-up team, or other volunteer group that will expose you to like-minded people.
(Added bonus: Activities serve as instant ice-breakers and ease off some of the pressure you might feel in a bar or on a blind date.) What if you meet someone, and there aren’t instant sparks?
Many older divorced or widowed men and women are in the same boat. You're probably not desperate enough to stalk your neighbors, or to go looking for friends with benefits in all the wrong places (bars come to mind).
They feel protective of their privacy and peace of mind, but they haven't become eunuchs or hermits. But offered a chance to reconnect with someone from your past — dinner with your high school steady, for example — you might just surprise yourself by winding up in bed.